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May I keep ashes at home?

Yes, and many people do. Your local funeral home can help you select the best urn for your family, as well as filling and sealing the ashes within.

Elegant Cherrywood UrnAttitudes toward keeping cremation remains at home vary widely. Here are some reasons that many keep the ashes at home, at least for a while:

  • Some people have great difficulty in letting go and confronting the finality of death, and need time before scattering or burying the ashes. 
  • As families become more mobile, the traditional models for the deceased become either impractical or seem irrelevant, hence hesitation based on confusion. 
  • Many families feel greatly comforted that some tangible remains of their loved ones remain in their home. 
  • Many times the ashes are divided among family members who often live in widely dispersed locations. 
  • Cremation jewelry is another way to keep a loved one close. It is now even possible to use part of the cremated remains to create a genuine diamond, a truly precious way to keep a loved one near. 

There are also some strong objections expressed to this practice. 

  • In France a law was passed affording the rights of a "person" to cremated remains, making it illegal to keep them in a private residence. 
  • Some religions insist on interment of ashes in consecrated ground. 
  • Many feel that it is disrespectful to have human remains stored like a piece of luggage. 
These are obviously very individual concerns. Consult your pastor, rabbi or other spiritual advisor if you are confused. And be sure to discuss the ultimate disposal of remains with your funeral provider.